Have you ever turned to your girlfriend and asked her “What’s the point?” followed by a long shpeel about the injustices in your life? This can include; how your parents won’t get off your back because nothing you ever do is good enough, and how you should be married by now – which then turns into a tangent about how every date you’ve been on from Plentyoffish, eHarmony, or Lavalife turns out to be a flake or just interested in casual sex because they “just got out of a relationship”. And then from there start off on your boss and how he can’t seem to give you a break at work and complains about everything, and finish off your verbal vomit (which is really just about “sharing your feelings”) with how you can’t stop eating McDonald’s cinnamon rolls and have “gained like 10 pounds in a week!!!”
All of my life I’ve listened to women complain about one thing or another, but over the last five years, and maybe it’s BEcause I’m getting older, I’ve specifically noticed women complaining about their “have to” jobs, their children’s unruly behaviour, their messed up relationships, their fat backsides and how they won’t put on a bathing suit because of the cellulite and yet continue to eat those oh-so-good cinnamon rolls that they roll out of the driveway at 10pm three nights a weeks . Why do the majo rity of women, regardless of their socio-economic, physical or mental status, have the same gripes?
So many women get “stuck” in a pity cycle or what I refer to is the “dirty diaper syndrome, and although the wandering thought of “maybe I could change things up a little” starts to swirl around in their heads and they make a plan for “tomorrow”, they quickly realize it’s been a week or maybe a month and nothing has really changed. Their jobs they hate so much are still happening and they dread getting up every morning to put on their nylons or unflattering uniform just to pay the bills. That treadmill they got from the shopping channel last year is still sitting there in the coner of the room waiting for the “right” time to get on it while it’s collecting the dust that they just don’t have the time to clean.
Yes! Woman let’s not deny it, we live in a world that we feel some strange pull to put effort into things that don’t ultimately make us happy. We are concerned mostly with the need to feel good about ourselves from the inside out, but do little to satisfy our souls.
And, somehow the urban generation of ages 15-24 young women have caught on to this trend and strive for immediate gratification only, with out not a lot of long term planning. These women literally and figuratively buy into the media and its trends; needing to be thin and fashionable.There is no middle ground when it comes to the origin of unhappiness. They either blame their parents, the boys, or the world on why they aren’t satsified, then end up confused saying “What’s the point?” Living in a world where, even though they say they don’t give a rat about what others think of them, they would never be seen alone in a mall or coffee shop reading a book or without makeup in public. They are either ultra girly or aggressive picking fights at school or in the club to prove something to someone else.
What is happening? The feminist pendulum had swung from right to left and now it’s dangling in the air with so much distraction and so much distance from self preservation. When did we learn to believe that girl empowerment is giving up on ourselves?! And when did we learn that being our own person is in the hands of media and society?
So my question to you is; how big are your balls? Or, for you girly girls; how big is your purse? What will you do to fit in, or adversely, what will you do to step above the mediocrity? This isn’t about girls being better than boys, but more about taking the time to look at how self fulfillment, through self awareness – not media or blame, can actually enhance our lives. When you make the effort, you get the payoff!
This is about more demands on women to be superwomen; balancing it all. Do you rise to the occasion? Or, do you throw up your hands and say ‘forget it’.
SET SOME GOALS, follow through on them even if it takes time. Do it because you ARE worth it! After all, no one will truly believe you are worth until you believe it yourself!
